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The search for truth creates direction in our lives

In the last decade, we have witnessed a unique technological advance, unprecedented in human history. Free access to information has fundamentally changed the life of modern man. The abundance of information, however, raises doubts about its credibility and quality.

There are visible and hidden mechanisms in information that influence people’s attitudes, beliefs, and aspirations. If the individual person can develop critical thinking and thus protect himself from manipulative suggestions, it is very difficult or impossible for the mass of people. Therefore, I will touch on various topics that are currently a “hot spot” in the information field.

I will present some conflicting claims and different views that differ from the mainstream. The goal is to develop criticality and approach information carefully before accepting it as our truth.

Suffering and violence as a tool of the subconscious

A lot of resources have been directed by institutions, organizations and psychologists helping women and children subjected to domestic violence. This activity is necessary for the victim to get back on his feet and continue his normal and fulfilling life. In general, it is a work of consequence. We work on the violence when it has already occurred and caused the damage to the person. Even after a lot of inner work, there are often remnants of pain, fear, and distrust in the victim of abuse. This can change her attitudes and beliefs about the world, herself and the future. Often, after being abused, people begin to see themselves as victims. When a person perceives himself in this way, he begins to unconsciously attract violence to himself, which in turn gives him the opportunity to face it and overcome it.

These are the so-called internal tests, which appear as a spiritual subjective mission of each individual to become a better version of himself. It is important to note that when we talk about violence, we do not mean only physical violence. Manipulation, suppression, emotional and verbal abuse, even lying, are forms of abuse.

In this context, violence, as well as disease, is directed where there is a need and need for it. For this reason, avoiding violence does not solve the problem – it will reappear if the lesson is not understood and learned. It is necessary to go to the root of the problem and discover the reason why we have an unconscious need to meet people who hurt us. Very often the cause is found in the early relationships in the family and the pattern we adopt.

We can deal with violence by recognizing, accepting and transforming our approach, views, attitudes and actions. Unfortunately, these transformations very rarely happen through the lens of happiness. Inner transformation does not have to be through violence and pain. Its function is to direct our attention and indicate where we need to work on ourselves.

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When we live in the age of selfishness, often to protect our fragile egos and self-esteem, we try to push the blame away from us. For this to happen, we need to find a “victim” to take responsibility for the guilt that we cannot handle. Narcissists fit this “bad” profile very well. There is a tendency to look for people with narcissistic symptoms, and when we find them, blame them for the pain we feel and the lack of love in our lives. This kind of accusation is nothing more than immature behavior and shifting of responsibility.

When we shift the blame for our unhappiness onto other people, we empower them and put ourselves in the position of victim. Instead, we can ask ourselves why do I meet narcissists? What skill are narcissists trying to develop in me, what are they unconsciously teaching me? How can they help me? Which of my qualities and perceptions can I change in myself in order to react adequately in a situation of attack from their side?

Individualists bypass love

It happens that people who have been hurt often or have attachment problems choose to be individualistic, striving for self-sufficiency. They prefer to focus on their own selfishness instead of seeking to meet love. The reason for this is that they see love as an obstacle to achieving their own goals. According to egoists, being tied to someone is something that limits their freedom and also carries the risk of harm. Refusing to bond with others is a defense mechanism that creates unhealthy selfishness. Because of this “protection” we focus on the safe and on our already familiar comfort zone. Often a defense mechanism is a behavior that aims to avoid encountering a painful and traumatic situation.

Fear is the tool by which we prevent ourselves from putting ourselves in potentially painful and dangerous moments like those in our past because we already know they lead to pain.

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The problem with this “defense” is that it does not lead to developing and building coping skills, but to running away and blaming others for our weaknesses.

Being selfish and individualistic are not the same thing, but often one leads to the other. It feels like subtle and dangerous propaganda, for people to strive to be individualistic, self-reliant and independent. This is the right path, but only if it passes through the prism of Love. If it continues to happen through the ego and the mind, people will see each other as a means to their ends, leading to the commercialization of relationships. They will not need love, they will consider it a weakness and avoid it because it is not comfortable and does not match their self-love. The purpose of propaganda is to make people focus and think only about themselves, without dealing with public problems because they are other people’s problems. It will kill the few values ​​left in society. If the need and need for love, connection, commitment, communication and intimacy between humans is removed, the consequences for humanity could be dramatic. What is the point of being career successful and secure if you are lonely and lack the values ​​to guide you towards love?

Dealing with our subconscious traumas

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Another, very modern, topic is getting the traumas out of our subconscious. Let’s work on them, because they prevent us from being happy and developing our potential. This is the point of view, only one side of the coin. The other side is that in the subconscious there may be no trauma, no discernment of good and evil, and no tension and pain. It has survival mechanisms and unconscious processes embedded in us before birth. The subconscious mind is multidimensional, quantum, it is not consistent and logical. It can contain within itself two mutually exclusive elements without there being any contradiction between them. And when there is no contradiction, there can be no conflict.

There is a huge potential in the subconscious that we do not know. We may know the limits of consciousness, which is linear and sequential, but not of the subconscious. This can often be seen in extreme situations where a person jumps over the limits and capabilities of the human body and strength.

It is common to believe that trauma prevents us from bonding with a partner or achieving a certain goal. Injuries are seen as a barrier that prevents us from achieving what we want. In fact, a person sets his own limitations and uses trauma as an excuse. This can be seen as self-sabotage and shifting the blame, “the trauma is to blame, not me.”

People make these connections because they think we are influenced by events that happened in our past. The reality is that there is no such thing as a traumatic situation. In its essence, it is neutral. The emotional value we place on a situation comes from our attitude toward it. This attitude is based on the assessment you form of the situation. This evaluation is created in the present moment and is a conscious choice about how we perceive what we observe in the moment.

Generally speaking, we are afraid of dogs because we choose to be, not because we were bitten by a dog as a child. A change in the state of consciousness leads to a change in the way we see and perceive situations.

The goals presented as an important need in society

Another idea often found in a society of individualists is that life is defined by the goals we set for ourselves. When we set goals and work towards them, we will have results and new skills that will give meaning to our lives. Having a goal achieved gives a sense of accomplishment and thus improves self-esteem. At first glance, it sounds logical and correct.

The problem with propaganda is that it works on a large time scale. Sometimes it takes several generations to plant certain suggestions. Thus, they can hardly be recognized and identified, especially by the new generations. Most people think that the tools by which the world is controlled are money and power. In fact, they are an aspiration for those who don’t have them. The world is controlled and governed by ideas, beliefs and attitudes. Ideas have the power to transform public attitudes and be the new normal for society. As a result, the immoral and destructive can be perceived as completely normal and a new norm of correctness. In this way, the values ​​of the society are changed, changes are created in the culture that guides the upbringing of individual individuals. This is how our aspirations, goals, internal rules and norms are modulated, without us even being aware that they are externally projected on us. Therefore, it is good when we choose and set goals, to ask ourselves why we are actually doing it, what prompted us to this decision and action?

Modern slavery is being focused in the material, having goals and values ​​mainly to consume and consume. In this way, your choices and decisions are focused on “having and wanting”, not “being”.

Since the goals and aspirations we set for ourselves may not actually be ours, what should we do? Instead of goals, we may have a principled Direction. It is defined by what is important to us, our personal values, which can often diverge from societal values.

Goals are something specific. It is good to know the steps to achieve a given goal, but we must have the understanding that these are internal (sometimes external) plans and desires that are often out of sync with external variables and reality, which can lead to failure. When a goal is not achieved, it often leads to an internal feeling of failure. As a result, a low self-esteem is formed, which we try to compensate with material gains.

Direction, on the other hand, does not need goals, strategy and thinking. It is not concrete, but an inner feeling of correctness. Because of this, it has no ultimate direction and cannot contain failure. Its root is in movement, action and inner principles. Very often the Direction is our inner mission in this life, expressed in our subjective Path. Having a direction means that anything can happen, but you keep going anyway.

In search of meaning in life

Many people do not know what is the meaning of their life and what is the direction in which to invest their energy. Direction is like Love – it comes when you are ready for it, not a product of thinking or wishing. Most people look for the meaning of life somewhere outside of themselves, and that’s why they don’t find it, because they’re looking for it in the wrong place. It is inside us, there it originates, there it lives, there it unfolds. What do you need to do to find the meaning of your life? Work with what you have, not what you want to have. Start with yourself, realize your weaknesses and negative habits, start transforming and reworking them. In this way, your Path will reveal itself to you. You don’t have to look for him, he will find you if you start living in Rightness. Our own weaknesses are the most important resource we have and are far more valuable and essential than our strengths.

The mind will always try to protect us through fear of what it cannot control and know. That is why we need to create and act, despite fears and concerns. In this State of Consciousness, mistakes are not an obstacle, but a resource that we can use to move towards our inner growth and realization of our spiritual potential.

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